I don't think I'm being bigoted about this...

Hello friends;

I was sitting in a meeting and found myself in the very uncomfortable position of having to sit next to, well, one of them. You know how they are, all weird and ...well, I was just so very uncomfortable with the whole thing.

Things were ok for a while, there were other people in the room and we were discussing business issues and such. Hey, what are you going to do... you go to work and there they are sometimes. But then everyone left on errands for just a minute or two, left us sitting there alone. Gave me the heebies. Oh, and then he wanted to strike up conversation.... what in the world am I going to have to talk with this guy about? I don't know that I could even imagine the things he finds interesting.

Oh, for the most part, he seems like he tries to be just one of the guys, but you know it's all a put-on. I mean, sometimes, he will even drive a pick-up truck. But, he always comes in wearing a fancy shirt and tie. The nerve. And, so, ok, he's tall and lean and I guess handsome, but does he have to dress like that? Look, a work shirt and jeans is good enough for me, it should be fine for him too, shouldn't it? Well, I guess he's not one to get dirty and all. You know what that type are all about.

And I just hate going into his office. I mean does he have to have his lover's picture there right on the desk? Ok, so he owns the company and all, but still he should have to show some decorum. I mean, I guess I'm as liberal as the next guy, well mostly; I mean, couldn't there be a town or city or something just for "them" .... where I don't have to be subjected to this stuff? I mean, does he have to have pictures up? I don't want to see that.... there he is smiling in his fancy shirt with his wife and her fancy shirt. Even the kids had fancy shirts on. Damn heterosexuals.... they should just lock them up and keep them away from us normal people.

( I hope everyone who reads this understands it is a parody on prejudice and how a person in the majority may think about a person who is in a minority. I had a panic that I'd offended some people, so this addition is to put my mind and heart to rest on that concern. Also, check out this link: http://www.milkboys.org/article/queer-on-queer-hate-bingo/ )

Some Cuties in 3 Groups...

Hi Everyone; I had meant to post some cuties or naughties last weekend, then got caught up in the article on Fear. It's been a bit of a week....I seem to be having more of those lately.... and so I didn't get back even until now. Well, I hope these are eye catching for you, too.

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Group 2

I love the confidence these two cuties bring to the picture. I always hated having my pic taken...of course, I didn't look this good.

Group 3.

Boy, there is something about a young man in tighty whitey's that just gets my heart to pump.

Fear

Hi Everyone;

I just read a very interesting article on Milkboys. Please visit http://www.milkboys.org/article/eek-a-male/

Fear is baseless all too often, and in a global news network where they are begging for your eyes to see the products they are peddling, it has simply become a sales technique - all the sadder. The mind, if I recall my freshman psychology classes from way-back, generalizes very well. Stereotypes come about because it is simpler to lump a potential threat in with the "danger" file so to quickly react than it is to ponder if that saber-toothed tiger is hungry or playful.

But, unless you know something I don't, there are few of those particular tigers about anymore. And yet, we in America seem to be confounded and surrounded by fears. Personally, I blame the tv. If you watch long enough you will realize that you don't dare go outside for fear of getting robbed, killed, hit by a car, sun poisoning, air pollution, ya-da, ya-da. But, I don't dare stay inside for fear of being killed by falling furniture, asbestos, death by Doritos....it reminds me of an old joke where the man laments hearing that 90% of accidental deaths occur less than 3 miles from the home - - he hasn't been home since.

"One of the things which danger does to you after a time is -, well, to kill emotion. I don't think I shall ever feel anything again except fear. None of us can hate anymore - or love."---- Graham Greene - The Confidential

I have shared with you how I've lived my life in a form of fear. I've feared to be true to my desires because....what will people think? My fears have placed me in a position of loneliness and being alone (yes, they are separate issues). But, as you also know, I'm working on that.

"What are fears but voices airy?Whispering harm where harm is not.And deluding the unwaryTill the fatal bolt is shot!"---- Wordsworth

I keep coming back to the thoughts expressed in the Milkboys article. I hope you read it. It offers anecdotes of moments when men have been feared despite doing what can only be described as helpful. Also, men have feared to help because "what will be said?". What is the end of this path?

"Fear is a tyrant and a despot, more terrible than the rack, more potent than the snake."---- Edgar Wallace - The Clue of the Twisted Candle (1916)

When we begin to fear, we stop thinking. How often I've heard this statement! And, yet despite that simple understanding, it is easier to fear than it is to think, to understand, to hope and even to love. Fear becomes the master, the ruler, and the more we fear the greater our worship of that quiet killer.

What we fear comes to pass more speedily than what we hope."---- Publilius Syrus - Moral Sayings (1st C B.C.)

You have probably found yourself with two main thoughts if you've gotten this far...one being examples in your own life where you have seen fear or felt it and it's stopped you. The second....why is randy putting up all of these quotes? Well, to the second, I wanted to show that the simple understanding of the situation is so long in history, so deep in our culture's literature, so forward in our minds, and yet it still rules our days. Why?