Wednesday, February 23, 2011

Marriage and Equality in America

Hi Friends;
It sometimes feels a bit presumptuous when I put my two cents into fights than have been weighing for years and years regarding issues I only recently became associated or even aware existed as relevant to my life. I guess this is one of them. Barely acknowledging my own feelings and even more barely cracking the door of the closet, I still find that this is an area that impacts not only my future, my hopes, but really the very lives of some of my best and most important friends. Further, to destroy a quote by a great man; "injustice anywhere is a threat to justice everywhere". We, as citizens hoping to be free, owe it to ourselves and our succeeding generations to tackle discrimination. So, forgive me if I join the fight late....better late than never.
I learned an odd thing today. It was President Clinton who signed the law defining marriage as existing between one man and one woman. I would have thought that to be something directly from the republican agenda. No matter, right being right, wrong being wrong, there is no doubt that this very law has been a source of division and discrimination. I'm so very glad that President Obama has chosen to re-examine the government's stand on the topic and realize the fundamental unfairness of the thing entire.
Some days ago, I was searching for a few bits of understanding on equal rights, civil rights, rights for, well, all people of these United States. I find that such searches often reveal odd treasures. This is a relatively long writing, so I will only provide the link. But, I encourage everyone to stop and read this writer. He has really taken the very arguments that seem the backbone of anti-gay marriage proponents and looked at them critically - something I find I doubt those same proponents bothered to do. In time, you will likely find yourself in a discussion about the topic, and this gentleman writer's analysis of the main arguments will be of serious help.
Friends, I don't have the answers. If you read my blog thinking I do you are in for some very real disappointments. Frankly, I screw things up so often I've gotten a case of athlete's tongue from the amount of time my foot is in my mouth. The best I figure I can do is look, share, and hope you all care enough to correct me where you see I've missed.
There is no doubt, though, that this topic - which I labeled not as gay marriage, but as 'marriage and equality' for a reason - that this topic will continue on as people voice their hopes, opinions and discriminations. It is interesting that so often folks seem to need something to be discriminatory over to make their own lives appear better.
~r.

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Lessons from my dog...

My dog is the consumate nature lover. She adores the outdoors. She rolicks and plays in the grass and weeds, sniffing out bunnies and squirrels. She has taught me to love the outdoors, too.
Do you have one to share?

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Lessons learned from my best friend...

Hello Friends; Over the years, I've had the misfortune to be an often angry, confused, miserable person. I've had hatred in my heart, shame, envy. And, in my many years, I've also had the great fortune to spend some years with a great friend, a wonderful companion. Such does things for the heart that words don't quite match. So, I thought I would add a simple posting, a very incomplete posting, that begins to extoll the virtues of sharing my life with a pet. I invite you to add your lessons here, too. My dog loves life. She lives in the now. When she looks at me, she sees me with eyes of hope... hope for love, play, food, a scratch behind the ears.... When my dog has done wrong, she feels bad knowing that I am upset with her. She seeks to behave in a way that makes me happy, but may not always be a way that she would like to. Food comes and food goes.....where it stops, the smell really tolls. Farts are mysterious happenings. Sleep is to be shared....the closer the better. Forgiveness. This is going to be a repeating post. I invite you to send me pics of your dog with your caption...or even a pic you think is especially cute and/or funny with caption. My hope is to do a post a day with dog pics.

Saturday, February 19, 2011

Sticks and Stones

It was a wonderful moment for me to find that Micky is still out there, still writing and sharing. I look forward to the moment when he is able to restart his blog.
Perusing what he has shared through "Leaving the Grey Room", I stumbled upon memories of my own. Words and actions said in anger some 25 to 35 years ago that still resound in my mind and spirit. I sometimes wonder if such ever leave us. Maybe they do more than just shape us, they become a part of who we are and are therefore no more removable than a hand or foot. I don't know.
Someone once told me that we have to be careful with what we say. Our words may seem insignificant to us at that moment, but they may be the anchor for another's soul at that very same moment. We can be positive and lift someone up to the clouds with thoughtful words of kindness, appreciation and affections. Or, the words that we see as simple anger venting at someone may be that very thing that defines that person for that moment, and then stays for years. I'm sure my father would not have been so loose with his words if he knew I would remember them to this date. I'm sure they were but of the moment to him.
Me? I'm still trying to find a way to make him proud of me. It's only been some 40+ years, I'll keep trying to change these words in my mind.