Saturday, February 19, 2011

Sticks and Stones

It was a wonderful moment for me to find that Micky is still out there, still writing and sharing. I look forward to the moment when he is able to restart his blog.
Perusing what he has shared through "Leaving the Grey Room", I stumbled upon memories of my own. Words and actions said in anger some 25 to 35 years ago that still resound in my mind and spirit. I sometimes wonder if such ever leave us. Maybe they do more than just shape us, they become a part of who we are and are therefore no more removable than a hand or foot. I don't know.
Someone once told me that we have to be careful with what we say. Our words may seem insignificant to us at that moment, but they may be the anchor for another's soul at that very same moment. We can be positive and lift someone up to the clouds with thoughtful words of kindness, appreciation and affections. Or, the words that we see as simple anger venting at someone may be that very thing that defines that person for that moment, and then stays for years. I'm sure my father would not have been so loose with his words if he knew I would remember them to this date. I'm sure they were but of the moment to him.
Me? I'm still trying to find a way to make him proud of me. It's only been some 40+ years, I'll keep trying to change these words in my mind.

4 comments:

Sammy B said...

Hello Randy
A good point, well made. 'If you can't say something nice, say nothing' might sound a bit trite, but it would save a lot of pain for a lot of people. I'm sure almost everyone is guilty of saying hurtful things at times - I certainly am - but if everyone just took a second for reflection and thought of consequences before opening their mouths, it could make the world a nicer place for everyone. Sadly, I'm not optimistic of such a thing taking place.

Love & best wishes
Sammy B

randy said...

Hi Sammy;
You hit on such a great note: it isn't others doing this that will make a wonderful world. I so struggle with my sarcasm and I struggle with my own demons wanting to show themselves that it is I who must use my words carefully. It's all about the 'man in the mirror' - mj. A smile to a passerby on the street, a good morning to someone passed at a doorway. A simple compliment to someone who has been kicked a lot in life....maybe we could use such to effect great change in the world. Maybe we could use such to only effect great change for one person. Thank you for your wonderful comment. Have a great day, my friend. hugs! randy

scottiestoybox.com said...

Hello Randy. While those words and deeds do stay with us, they can lose their power. Also remember that the only one you need to prove anything to is yourself.

I can not change anyone but my self, so I again will promise my self to be the very best Scottie I can be.

That sure is a heart wrenching photo you found.

Hugs. Scottie

randy said...

Hi Scottie;
It is heartwrenching. It seemed to come straight from my memories. And, words and deeds do lose power, but they sure have a long half-life.
So many hugs to you! -randy.