I just saw a clip that Mr. Roger's Neighborhood was going to come back on the air in a pupped/cartoon format. I thought that was, if I may use Scottie's term, Grand. In my college courses, he actually came up a few times as a real pioneer in teaching through modeling. Ever since watching him as a small child, I've learned best by watching someone do something and then trying the same thing myself...especially if I could get them to repeat it a few times. So, hat's off to Fred.
I recently went through some family troubles. Yep, happens. A wonderful and insightful friend showed me that I was being very concerned about what everyone else was going through and forgetting about that man in the mirror. His words have been resonating with me ever since, to the point of having me unable to sleep a day later for the reverberating waves in my mind.
In searching this out, I found many cartoons and stylized phrases that spoke about respect for others, and even respect for oneself, but rarely do we hear about how we must sometimes stick up for ourselves. We most often hear about being considerate and kind to others, to their belongings and their beliefs,... that sort of thing. And, how quickly do we slide away from self concern as a position akin to selfishness. And yet, our gift of life, liberty and even peace and happiness are only going to be protected by us, by each for his own. The government can't give us self-respect. Our religion can't. Our family can't. Really, it is a journey of self acceptance and discovery. It is a learning process in which only we can be the teacher as well as the student. We can be guided, taught a bit, even model it from someone like our lovable Fred Rogers, but in the end, only we - - only I can respect myself.
And, sometimes, in order to respect myself, I must insist on being treated in a certain manner, a respectful manner. And, as hard as it may be to require this, if someone isn't willing to respect me, then they are really unhealthy for me, aren't they?
Is it so wrong that we should expect respect? As a person, as a people group, we must not only know what we believe in and are willing to stand for, but also that we do not become other's doormat.
It's going to take some time. I wasn't taught a great deal of self-respect growing up, instead having it drummed into my head how I needed to show respect for others instead. So I need to learn this now, as an adult full of poor ways of doing things .....and this is going to take time. But, it certainly feels right.