Saturday, November 5, 2011

What does it mean to you?

Homophobia means:

I am the sister who holds her gay brother tight through the painful, tear-filled nights.
I am the girl kicked out of her home because I confided in my mother that I am a lesbian.
I am the prostitute working the streets because nobody will hire a transsexual woman.
We are the parents who buried our daughter long before her time.
I am the man who died alone in the hospital because they would not let my partner of twenty-seven years into the room.
I am the foster child who wakes up with nightmares of being taken away from the two fathers who are the only loving family I have ever had. I wish they could adopt me.
I am one of the lucky ones, I guess. I survived the attack that left me in a coma for three weeks, and in another year I will probably be able to walk again.
I am not one of the lucky ones. I killed myself just weeks before graduating high school. It was simply too much to bear.
We are the couple who had the Realtor hang up on us when she found out we wanted to rent a one-bedroom for two men.
I am the person who never knows which bathroom I should use if I want to avoid getting the management called on me.
I am the mother who is not allowed to even visit the children I bore, nursed, and raised. The court says I am an unfit mother because I now live with another woman.
I am the domestic-violence survivor who found the support system grow suddenly cold and distant when they found out my abusive partner is also a woman.
I am the domestic-violence survivor who has no support system to turn to because I am male.
I am the father who has never hugged his son because I grew up afraid to show affection to other men.
I am the home-economics teacher who always wanted to teach gym until someone told me that only lesbians do that.
I am the man who died when the paramedics stopped treating me as soon as they realized I was transsexual.
I am the person who feels guilty because I think I could be a much better person if I did not have to always deal with society hating me.
I am the man who stopped attending church, not because I don’t believe, but because they closed their doors to my kind.
I am the person who has to hide what this world needs most, love.
I am the person who is afraid of telling his loving Christian parents he loves another male.
I am the boy kicked out of his home because I am gay.

  and who are you?


Anonymous said...

Hallo Randy,
Like Martin Luther posted his theses to the church door in Wittemberg, these questions should be sent to all governments and church leaders around the world.
Martin Luther was successful - many follow his thoughts up today.
His ideas were revolutionary!

Anonymous said...

Hi to all,
I am just a gay one - knowing since I was around twelve - I am 70 now .

I didn't come out to no one.

I tried to be a hetero, until I was 31

I didnt know what gay life is, until I became 68.

I answered all questions, if I were gay, with: does it matter for you? - Did that for 37 years.

I am the man, whose life has been influenced sooo much by being gay.

Sometimes I am still a struggling gay man.

<3 miles

Scottie said...

Hello Randy.

I am ME. I became me through a life time. I left the constraints of what others thought I should be, to become what I was / am today.

I am ME. I do my best to be true to myself, to treat others as I wish to be treated, not because of reward, but because both are the right thing to do.

I am ME. I give out love freely and gently. Not because it is easy but because as I give love I am filled with more of it, and as I fill up with it I have more to pour out. It is a balm on any sore of life.

I am ME. I like me. I hope to help others, maybe to like themselves also.

I am just ME.

Hugs, Scottie

randy said...

Hi Nikki;
wasn't Martin Luther ex-communicated? It is an interesting thought, though, and I am wondering what people would think if it was something more understood among the "straight world".

randy said...

Hi Miles;
I am so glad you are you. It's difficult to be someone you know you are not...I am right there with you with many people in my business and family life. Keep being you.

randy said...

Hi Scottie;
I am so glad you are you. By your strength, you have encouraged many, me included, to be me.
hugs and thank you.

Anonymous said...

hi Randy,
Martin Luther was ex-communicated?
Yes he was, and according to the roman-catholic church he will burn in hell to eternity,
It is just the same catholic church, that is dependent on the Popes decisions conceerning questions of sex for instance.
, whose priests are reponsible for a great lot of f... kids.
It is just the same church, that condems homosexuality they are such rottenliars that the tolerate it among their own priests, as long as the don't live it openly.

miles <3

randy said...

I think that's different, Miles, but yeah. I think, and others will likely wish to chime in here, that anytime a natural attraction is stifled, unnatural things are apt to develop.