Thursday, June 28, 2012

Words, Weighing us Down

Hello My Friends;

  I just saw a wonderful video.  Small, short, easy.... It talks about how we carry words with us.  They not only impact our moment, but color our day.  They fill us, make us heavy, or make us light.  What words do you carry?  What words do I?
  More important, what words do we inflict upon others?

  At work there is one man who is a classic pain in the butt.  He's a Cliff Claven of Cheers fame.  A social outcast, a gossip who needs to be liked yet doesn't shower or dress well.  He just seems to place himself in the worst circumstances and, by word or deed, digs his holes deeper and deeper.  And yet, he is a man, worthy of respect and care - no matter how difficult I find it to do so in times of frustration with him.  I've been doing my best to always speak well to him.  Because he's aggravating, it's an obvious challenge - like giving up chocolate for New Year's or Lent, or something.  In the process, I've found him still a bit aggravating, but very human. 

  Here is the link to that wonderful video.  It was on Milkboys, so you likely already saw it.  I was touched by it, by the simple message it portrayed.  With such a simple word of Haj (hello) did the colors shine in this one's life.  May we always be aware of our words, and may our words lift our fellow human beings.


Scottie said...

I so understand what you are saying. One of the hardest PT's for me to deal with is the Drug / Alcohol abuser who is a jerk. I person who is just a substance abuser and is sick and going through with drawls is someone I can deal with, but the ones who become jerks...I get so angry with. They abuse the system, the staff, me and seem to think the are owed the universe. Most of them are mean and abusive to the people in their lives so that is an added stress. Most wont change their attitude or life style so we are in a way wasting our time and efforts. Again it is not the fact they have a substance problem but that they have a personality of being mean, arrogant jerks all their lives.

But as you say they are people also. They are sick or ill people, or have had a surgery and they need, and should get the same attention, the same care, the same love we give others.

To do this, to treat them as we treat others, as we would want to be treated says a lot more about us and our lives than it ever would them. Hugs

randy said...

Hi Scottie;
I wonder sometimes how difficult it must be to be forced to expend physical, mental and emotional energy on patients who make your every day more difficult, and who abuse others in your sight. My emotions would be so ragged from helping others that need help so desperately that I would snap at that person, I bet. But, you said it when you said that he/she needs and deserves the same care as you would give others. We all have our baggage.
I think that's what drives me so angry with people who seek to dominate others, like politicians and preachers. There are some who seriously want to do good work... so I'll take it easy on them as a group. But, there are abusers, and they know who they are.
We as a people need to some day learn to live and let live a bit more, ya know?